Navigating the bookselling business

I am a great believer in the idea that what is going on in my life can also, though not always be a reflection of what is going on in my unconscious on any given day. My psyche is made up of inherited ancestral patterns, ways of being, beliefs etc.. that have gone in there either by genetics, miasms or by osmosis from my environment through childhood, as well as influences from others on my human journey.
I also have the idea that I can view what I need to examine within myself if I pay attention to what situations out there are mirroring to me, (I am talking about negative situations here) in other words, what people are in my world and what are they doing or saying.
Now after months of sending emails to one of the main UK book distributors (you have very little choice as a small publisher but to deal with them - that is unless I come up with another creative idea)and jumping through hoops to get the main buyers attention, with marketing plans etc.., they requested a copy of our first novel, which I duly sent to the person concerned, which they promptly lost. So I scratched my head, searched my feelings, meditated on it a bit and decided 'well that wasn' meant to be just yet then!' Of course the next question I then ask myself is why? Hummmm.....